“Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee”. Gen 3:16
“…….he will dominate you …”Gen.3;16(amp.)
By the reason of sin there is a desire to control in the wife which is a time bomb we must avoid in marriage. There is also something in every husband to dominate the wife with an iron hand.
The wife will be having the desire to control but the husband would see it and stamp on it with harshness and strictness (in domination). The domination of the husband in marriage is a time bomb. These draw the battle line in homes and this is the root of all conflicts and reasons why there is no wholeness and peace in our marriages.
All came about because Eve did not respect that first…first in time and order… given to the husband in the home. When that first is not respected what comes in is somebody seeking for control and the other seeking to dominate with hardness and strictness – bossing not leading.
How do I know this is going on in my home?
Ask yourself is there any point between you and your husband where either one of you is holding on to themselves and not letting go?’
There are subtle ways in which the control and domination comes in and we must watch out and step away from it because if the enemy was subtle in the garden and brought this to Eve, he is still subtle now. There is no ground for secrecy between husband and wife for any reason. .
What is the way out?
Eph. 5:21 “submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God” making the fear of God the object, so that the fear of God rules in our marriages, then husband and wife can submit one to another. The reason why in Gen. 2. There was silence over who head is and who the body is because God expected mutuality. Dominating and controlling is a sin. God expects mutual submission in marriage so there is none controlling or dominating and this can happen only with the fear of God.